False role models!
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In many ways we are biologically hardwired to role model the examples set by our fathers and our immediate role models.
But what if your father is not there, being either physically absent, emotionally absent or abusive (to himself, you and or both)?
Who do you mirror- who fills the fundamental need of a male role model?
In most cases we, in the absence of a physically present father or role model ,attempt to fill the void and take many of our behavioral cue’s form popular culture and in our current western world that would normally involve television, movies, magazines, games and the online world.
Arguably not the healthiest selection from which to source our fundamental beliefs around honesty, trust, authority, self worth, self esteem and alike.
The humor around the cartoon character Homer Simpson is in many ways funny because of its closeness to reality- a reality where this is the foundation that many children base their own personal identity around themselves- a disastrously poor substitute for a father.
And what of the adolescent growing up with no real father role model– at an age where much of our relationship with authority is formed – this child is left to mirror the attitudes of “Grand Theft Auto”- (a very popular console game- that as the name would suggest does not promote the healthiest relationship with authority)
We need our fathers and we need positive male role models for which we develop and mirror so much of what we ultimately become as adults. When these are absent father, for whatever reason, we must and will find a substitute