Absent Fathers can occur in our lives through many forms.
As is in the case of the effects of an Absent Father Environment the way in which fathers can be absent from their families can be very subtle vet still incredibly disruptive to the development of young children.
We must remember that, when addressing both the ways in which fathers can be absent and the effects of this fatherly void, we are primarily dealing with a child based perception.
What I mean by this is that as an adult we are far more attuned and capable of dealing with the many up’s and downs of life. We can, through our own life experiences, understand that other people (including our fathers) can make decisions in relation to the course of their lives without it having to be about us.
As a child, psychologically, we are forced to deal with these issues and events, like the absence of our father, whilst still being totally egocentric and are thus unable to separate the course that others may take in life from ourselves.
Thus to from our child perspective a father can be absent in many ways that might not at first seem reasonable from our adult perspective.
Some of the more common ways in which a father may be absent include;
- Marriage and relationship break up or separation
- Loss of life
- Military or other form of sustained service or work away from the home
Still other more subtle forms of absent father might include;
- The disapproving father
- The mentally ill father
- The substance abusing father
- The abusive father
- The unreliable father
Any and all of the examples list above can be equally devastation to a child and their development, in-fact in some cases the less obvious forms of absent father (i.e. where the father or significant male role model is physically present yet emotionally unavailable) can be incredibly harmful as to many, including the child there is little if any physical issue to recognize.
Here the guilt, so universally, connected with the occurrence of the absent father from the child egocentric perspective can be intensified main because there is little obvious reason or cause.
The underlying common thread to the occurrence of the absent father is the emotional presence; hence it in most cases is equally important that you felt that your father was absent.